"To love yourself is to understand you don't need to be perfect to be good."
As a mom of three, I have seen my body go through a lot of change. There has been seasons of loving my body and seasons of not loving my body. Sometimes it helps knowing that God made me how he wanted me and other times, it is hard to find that comfort in the plan. It is a journey that has spanned many years and many highs and lows.
The years have taught me much about myself and who I am trying to be as a mom, a wife and a woman. I don't know it all, but I do know some.
Here are my 5 favorite ways to learn to love yourself
Stop comparing yourself to others If God wanted you to look a certain way, he would do it. You are uniquely made just how you are supposed to be. That person you find yourself comparing yourself to? They have insecurities as well. They may dislike their smile, while you love yours. Or they may wish they were another 5 inches taller when you are supermodel tall. You are made perfect in His eyes, and that is enough.
Stop apologizing for the way you are You owe no one an apology. Easier said than done, I know. When you are able to stop feeling the need to apologize, you walk a little taller and carry yourself a little bolder. People who you need in your life will love you just how you are and expect nothing less, especially an apology for being yourself.
Focus on your self care Take an extra-long bath, paint your nails, wear that outfit that makes your confidence soar. Going the extra mile can be as easy as wearing the red lipstick that makes you feel fabulous every day instead of just on special occasions. When you take care of yourself physically, you have room to take care of yourself mentally. Let's be real for a moment... when your hair is freshly washed and you took an extra 5 minutes to do your makeup or get dressed, it shows in everything you do that day.
Focus on the positives, not the perceived negatives Your hair may not be perfect, but the brain underneath is. Your legs may not be all muscle, but they safely get you from point A to point B multiple times a day. Your teeth may not line up in a perfect line, but they help you consume the food needed to nourish your body. It can be easy to fixate on the perceived negatives, but if you focus on those positives it changes your entire mindset. "I can do this" and "I am beautiful" floods out the negativity about yourself.
Journal one beautiful moment from everyday It may be small and relatively insignificant but did it make you feel like you were on top of the world? Write it down! Seeing it in writing helps the good vibes last longer. Then on those rough days, you have an entire book full of self-love and things that make you proud to be you. Because after all, there is no other you.
The years have taught me much about myself and who I am trying to be as a mom, a wife, and a woman. I don't know it all, but I do know some.dy. Sometimes it helps to know that God made me how he wanted me and other times, it is hard to find that comfort in the plan. It is a journey that has spanned many years and many highs and lows.